What to do and what not to do after an autism diagnosis

By Finding Cooper's Voice

Your child has just been diagnosed with autism. Maybe you saw it coming. Maybe you didn't.

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DO Pause

A diagnosis can feel life changing. Acknowledge that. Take a moment or two to process. 01.

Do Find Support

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DO ask questions

Keep a list of the questions you have and remember that it's okay to ask them.

do tell your child's doctor

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Believe in your child. Believe in them so much that people think you are crazy. And then believe in them so more.

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Do trust your gut

You are your child's best advocate. Speak up and out when something feels off.

Do remember that your child is exactly who they are supposed to be. A diagnosis didn't change that. 03.

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DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP

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4 things to do right now

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