July 14, 2024
Autism: From ‘Never’ to ‘Possible’
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When my son was diagnosed with autism nine years ago, I began to think in nevers.
Not right away. But more over time.
Now as a typically very positive person, it felt strange. It felt unlike me.
But, that’s how the people around us spoke about autism.
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Your son will never talk. He will never ride a bike. He will never make a friend.
I could go on an on.
He will never have a normal life. He will never live independently.
Never, never, never.
With each evaluation for services, benefits and placements, the nevers stacked up.
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Talk about sad. That way of thinking messed me up big time. And I’m pretty sure it still happens a lot today with newly diagnosed children.
I no longer think that way. Now I look at all the things he can do. And may do. And hopefully will do. And if something does end up being a never, well, that’s ok too. He has limits and acknowledging those are healthy.
But the possibilities far outweigh the nevers.
Yesterday he went to the airport to practice flying on an airplane.
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He rode a tram. He went through security. He went on an escalator. He waited for what felt like years during a lightning delay. He boarded the plane he buckled his seatbelt.
I never thought it was possible. Boy did he prove me wrong.
Switch your way of thinking. It will change everything.
PS. Look at those smiling eyes!
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