We Can’t Stop Talking About Autism

What if we stopped talking about autism?

I think about that sometimes.

There will be times, like last night, where I will feel like it’s just too complicated.

Maybe, it would be easier to not share. To not advocate.

To hide even.

‘There was none of this autism stuff when I was younger!’

That’s a sentence I’ve heard more times than I can count from people. Some well meaning. Genuinely curious about it. And some, well, who think it’s a discipline issue. A bad child. A lazy parent.

The thing is…well, there were disabilities way back when. They were just hidden.

Little faces locked away in institutions. And if you want to argue about that, please, first, take a second and Google the ‘history of disabilities.’

Your skin will crawl. You will have to stop reading. Because it’s too awful. You will see the face of your own child. Naked. Medicated. Restrained.

I see my Cooper. And how he needs 5 warm fuzzy blankets to sleep at night. And loves bbq chips and going to school. And I think…thank God he is mine.

This morning I looked at my son dancing in his seat, so excited to go to school. Pure joy. His innocence. His vulnerability.

And I saw a kid with a full, meaningful life in front of him.

But also an uphill climb. One with sharing, advocating, and educating. One where I need to be brave and fearless.

One where he teaches us.

One where we show his gifts and his value in this world.

And his challenges too. Because once the world knows, and understands, and stops fearing, we can make tweaks and modifications to help kids like him.

We can’t stop talking about autism. We can’t.

He is not a sad story.
He is not a person to put somewhere. Or deal with.
His needs do not end at 18.
He needs to be in this world.

Start a conversation with your neighbor, a friend, a relative, the cashier at Target.

Because by sharing you are helping a fellow family.

I know you are beat down mom and dad, teacher, and self advocate. I feel it too.

But we can’t give up. We have to change the world for these kids.

And we can. And we will.

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