His Siblings are Making Their way In
My son Cooper has always reached for a hand to hold when we are in the community. But not just any hand. Typically, mom or dad.
He likes to feel safe. He likes to know that we are near. Yes, he is 11 years old and by this point in a boy’s life they typically die of embarrassment when holding a parent’s hand. But not our Cooper.
He loves holding hands.
He likes the comfort of us walking alongside him. Sometimes we lead. Sometimes he does. But he’s always an arm’s length away. As if we are tethered together.
We often refer to him as a little old man. Cautious. Careful. He points out ice and mud and dangerous terrain with a point and a gasp.
He likes to lean in for hugs too. Which I soak up. High fives and waiving are his favorites too.
On our walk tonight, my three-year-old decided he needed a break from walking and made his way into my arms. Which made holding a hand nearly impossible.
I thought for second a Cooper would stop. Sit down even. And we would be stuck.
As I paused, I saw the most beautiful gesture.
Cooper reaching for his younger brother’s hand. Purposefully. Not blindly.
And my 9-year-old? He didn’t pull away. He wasn’t too cool or too busy.
And before they walked off, I heard Sawyer say… ‘I’m here buddy.’
There is so much beauty in this life. Little moments like these ones. In the quiet. In the calm. Often missed.
Two brothers walking side by side. Neither one leading the other.
Cooper doesn’t trust a lot of people. But as he gets older, his siblings are making their way in.
It’s amazing to see.
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