Happy Valentine’s Day to My Best Friend

My sweet husband,

You and I have never been big Valentine’s people. Or gift givers really.

Ever since we had kids we always say we will take a day together and go shopping and buy something for each other but it never happens. There’s never time.

And well, this Valentine’s Day feels even less lovey than the others. For starters it feels like we have spent every minute together since last Valentine’s Day. That’s a lot of time together.

It’s also -5 degrees outside right now which is making us all a little squirrelly. We are bored. The kids are wearing us down. The house is a never ending mess.

In fact right now you are scrubbing the carpet with cleaner. I can hear you cursing our toddler who opened a packet of red jello on the white carpet.

And me too for buying it.

Really, if you’d open your mind a wee bit you’d laugh about how we blamed the dog first. Our sweet, 14 year old, blind, deaf dog. That was until our 3 year old lifted his hands up and his fingers and nails were dyed red.

‘Harbor, did you open a packet of red jello?’

‘What’s jello’ came out of the cutest little human.

Someday we will laugh. I know that.

You are also cursing me for asking what you were doing while he was causing such shenanigans. You didn’t appreciate that. We both know you were in the bathroom.

We also fought this morning. It was over something stupid on the news not really worth fighting over. It turned into a pissing match over who does more around here. Which is silly because we are a pretty great team if you ask me.

It’s been a day I tell ya. A year really. We need spring and a vacation and time to be adults.

I had to scroll super far back to find this photo. It was well over two years ago. How can that be? The answer is covid. And kids. And life.

We look so much younger. Just this morning we talked about your grey hair and my eye wrinkles. And how we can stop them.

The love is here though. I know it.

Because this morning you got up and made the coffee so I could lie in bed a few minutes longer before frantically assembling the 25 valentines we forgot to do last night.

And I switched out all the shower toiletries that you used up without even complaining so when you get in you will have soap and shaving cream. You know how frustrated that makes me….when I get in and everything is empty. But I also know that life is hard right now and that isn’t the mountain I want to die on.

You also put gas in my car and I buy those smelly fish snacks that you like even though I hate them. You buy me new socks and I scratch your back.

If those things aren’t love I don’t know what is.

Happy Valentine’s Day to my best friend. You make these hard days bearable. Gotta run. I see the third little one found tape.

PS. Sorry about the carpet. I know that stuff bothers you more than it does me.

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