Being a Mother is My Hobby
I googled hobbies at 3 AM this morning while nursing my newborn. She refused to sleep and I had time.
Then I googled hobbies for moms. Then hobbies near me.
Why you ask?
I guess I don’t have any. My husband and I had a rather heated conversation the other day about how life is eating us up right now and he let me know I don’t ever leave the house. And I don’t have hobbies.
It felt like a jab. It wasn’t supposed to be. He was telling me I need to take time for myself and instead I heard that I’m failing at yet another thing.
Because in that moment I couldn’t think of one reason worthy of leaving my house.
My initial reaction was to laugh. I have four kids and just had a baby. Dang right I don’t leave the house. And hobbies? With what time.
See he has lots.
Hunting. Fishing. Boating. Coaching. So many friends.
As we spoke I could feel my resentment towards him building. And it probably shouldn’t have because he wasn’t wrong. I have no hobbies.
I used too. I used to love reading and writing. And hiking and walking. I loved exploring new places. And decorating my home. I was always up for new things and getting dressed up.
But as I had babies, those parts of me started to fade away.
First becoming a mom. Having a baby who never slept. Then autism. Then therapy and worry. Then doctors. So many doctors for him. I lived in waiting rooms.
Then my second baby. More worry. Then sports and play dates. And a third and fourth. Two more little humans who needed me. Work. Covid. Home school. Writing a book. Being a wife.
It was as if pieces of me were disappearing. Or maybe just being used up. Like pieces of a pie divided up until there was nothing left of the original me.
Now I have no hobbies and I can’t tell you what I like to do. So crazy right? I am a good mom though. I think that matters for something. My hobbies are my kids right now.
My options near me are a pottery class or a Zumba class. Looks like both require pants and leaving the house. I’ll pass on those for now.
Today I’m choosing a nap. And a shower. I think that’s how I start finding myself.
Photo: Baby Wynnie and I meeting for the first time a few weeks ago. I was a goner.
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