They Will Always Have Each Other

I don’t know what it’s like to have a sibling with special needs.

I only know what I see and feel as the mom. And compare to what I experienced growing up.

These boys are two years apart. 10 and 8. When Cooper was diagnosed with autism, I wondered and I worried…about everything. Sawyer was not quite 2 years old yet. What did the future hold for them.

Sawyer would follow his older brother around the house, attempting to force his way into his world. He wanted to play. He wanted attention. He wanted to be acknowledged.

But it didn’t happen. And little did I know, wouldn’t for many years to come.

We had hard years, many with aggression and self-injuring. There were times of missing out and declining invites, even sending Sawyer with friends and family to experience the world. We held our breath through the really hard years and prayers, hard work, and determination got us through I think.

Life has a way of working out. It’s not text book, it’s not typical by any means, but these two are amazing with each other.

Here is what I know.

My biggest fear is leaving my older son behind when his Dad and I pass away. We have worried and wondered about every scenario and pray daily that it will all work out. We diligently lay the framework in place for our son’s future. That’s all we can do.

But I still worry. Especially at 3 am or in the shower. Or after a hard day.

And then I see Sawyer gently adjusting his older brother’s mask and whispering to him, ‘Take deep breaths buddy and don’t be scared. I am here with you.’

And in that very moment, I knew. These two will always have each other.

The best thing we can do as parents, is to love our children. Love them so much, and lift them up, and model kindness. Because they are learning.

These two are each other’s greatest gifts.

I know in my heart that Sawyer will be the one to make sure Cooper is safe, and loved, and treasured, and that his WIFI always works.

And Cooper will teach Sawyer what matters in this world.

Kindness. Relationships. Love.

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