We Will Sit in the Dark Together

I can remember when the first signs of autism started popping up. I was in the dark. I did not know anyone who was going through what I was going through.

I did not understand how to help Kyle and how to feel. I did not know which direction to go in.

I was completely alone and in the darkness.

I would sit in the shower and close my eyes. I could feel the water dripping down my face washing away the tears. I could hear the water pounding against my chest.

I sat alone in darkness.

Then I found this autism page, Finding Coopers Voice. It was life changing. It was finally someone who understood what I was going through. Someone who knew how I felt. It was someone who could validate my feelings. I slowly started to let the light back in.

On this page, they keep saying that you need to “find your tribe”.

I could not really understand that at first.

I have family, why can’t they be my tribe? Well, I learned quickly why. Yes, they are loving and care so much for Kyle and me, but they do not fully understand what we go through on a day-to-day basis.

I have finally found my tribe who will sit in the dark with me.

They are a great group of women who also have autistic children. They can understand my feelings and concerns daily. There are available at all hours of the day for conversation. They are supportive and knowledgeable.

I also want to be this light for other parents. I want to rip through their darkness and let them know they are not alone.

If you let me sit with you, I can promise you this…

Together we will slowly crawl out into the light.

Together we will find joy in everyday life.

Together we will advocate and fight for our children!

Together we can validate each other’s feelings.

Together we will show the world how special our children are.

Together we will make it through every appointment and new diagnoses.

Together we will ride this rollercoaster of highs and lows.

Together we will cry and laugh.

Together we will trip and get back up.

TOGETHER WE WILL NOT BE ALONE!

Written by, Alicia Kiechle

My name is Alicia. I am a proud mother of two amazing kids. I have a beautiful daughter named Morgan who is 7 years old and I have my energetic son Kyle who is 4 years old. Kyle was diagnosed on the autism spectrum and is currently nonverbal. Kyle has opened my eyes to a whole new world and a whole new meaning to the phrase, “Love needs no words!”  I am a Reading Specialist in an all-inclusive elementary school, and I also have taken on the role as the Autism Advocate and Coach within the building. I spend all my spare time trying to promote autism awareness and reminding people to always choose to Be Kind For Kyle! Join us on FB at Be Kind For Kyle.

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