There is so Much Beauty
I think about the beginning sometimes. When I first heard the word autism.
It was in a lunch-and-learn at the nonprofit I worked at.
I was eating a sandwich, minimally paying attention, when the woman started describing signs of autism in toddlers.
As she ticked off a list of traits, I did everything I could to keep my cool. The only sign of my internal panic being the flush that turned my cheeks and neck a deep red. I could feel the heat radiating from my face.
She was describing my Cooper.
One of the last things she said before I left the room abruptly was…children and adults on the spectrum rarely make friends.
My son is now 10 years old. It’s been 8, almost 9 years, since the first time I heard the word autism.
It went from something I feared to now embrace. From something I thought I had to fix to something that fixed me.
Minutes ago, Cooper heard his younger brothers and their friends playing in the backyard. He immediately jumped up.
He found his shoes. And made his way to the backyard.
Seconds later he signed ‘more’ to me and pointed to the kids who were laughing and yelling.
It took me a minute to decipher what he wanted more of.
He wanted more kids. More laughter. More noise.
I know he will not join in. And that’s ok. He doesn’t need to.
He’s happy watching and soaking up the joy that these kids bring into his life.
He will clap. And cheer. And tattle. And giggle. He will wave when the kids say, ‘hi Cooper!’
He is a watcher. An observer. A cheerleader. And he is happy.
There is so much beauty in this life if you just take the time to notice it.
Is it different…yes. Is it amazing…also yes. Remember that. It can be both.
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