We Wanted More
Did you know that someone once told me that our third son, the one in the middle, was a replacement child for Cooper?
I assume they wrote that comment to hurt me. Or to remind me what a crappy mom I am. Or maybe they were just angry and miserable. Who knows I guess.
What a ridiculous statement though. A replacement child.
I’m not sure why we would ever replace Cooper. He’s very much here. He’s 10 and is currently waiting on two movies from Amazon. This morning he asked me to go swimming and tattled on his baby brother for throwing my iPhone. Oh, and he did all that without words. Pretty cool huh? He’s pretty opinionated too and gets his point across so let’s be clear…there is absolutely no way we could forget about Cooper. And replace him…not possible. He’s one of a kind.
And that baby…well, he’s 2 years old now going on 13. He adores Nerf Guns and the monster truck Grave Digger. He does not like sleeping. He is obsessed with his older brothers. BOTH OF THEM. He is by far my messiest child and the word feral comes to mind. He may be the death of me one day.
He is amazing honestly. I once said he healed our family. And I stand by that. He has this way of filling in the cracks. He forces his way into everything. Even the world of a ten year old boy who likes to be a alone a lot. And he does it in a way that an adult never could. And overnight he became the love of Sawyer’s life…our middle son.
He’s like a bridge between the older and younger brothers. And glue too.
I’m not sure why anyone should ever have to justify why they have a baby but here goes.
We had a third baby (and soon a fourth) because we wanted MORE.
More love. More chaos. More joy. More, more, more. More for each of our kids. More for Sawyer. More for Cooper. More for us. More for the future.
But never to replace.
These three I tell ya. I know in my heart they will change the world. Each playing their own role. Buckle up because it’s going to be fun to watch!
Look at us over here…raising future advocates.
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