Learning How to Dance in the Rain

This too shall pass.

There is a saying that is said at one time or another to every parent.

This too shall pass.

I remember being told those words as I held each of my newborns, exhausted from cluster feeding and lack of sleep.

Again during the never ending messes that kids make. During potty training woes and tantrums over blue cups and the wrong shoes.

And I guess in most cases it’s true right? The hard moments do pass. Usually.

Babies start sleeping. Messes stop. Little humans learn to communicate. Potty training success is inevitable.

But what if it doesn’t pass? Because in some instances, it doesn’t. I read posts daily from special needs moms, exhausted. Some with adult children. Some with teens. Some with newly diagnosed toddlers.

Their concerns, worries, frustrations and fears poured out into a Facebook post. The responses from well meaning folks…this too shall pass. As if they have a crystal ball.

I’ve been there. I am there. I’ve read those words and seen red, angry at the lack of understanding.

Some days I want to scream…but what if it doesn’t?!

But I don’t. Because then I’m being negative. Or giving up hope. Or parenting wrong. When in reality, I’m being real.

Moms. Dads. People who walk the same path as me. This may not pass. You may be doing certain things forever.

Some kids don’t learn to sleep or eat or talk. I know this.

But you will be okay. You will be okay because you will figure it out. Because you are an amazing parent.

There is another saying. One that I love more. Something like it’s not about waiting for the storm to pass, but instead learning to dance in the rain.

We have quite a bit of rain over here. We have aggression and self injuring. Anxiety and sleep struggles. But we have a lot of sunshine too. More sunshine then rain in reality. Even days where it rains and shines.

And we are amazing dancers. We twirl and laugh, everywhere and anywhere. And we don’t focus on the rain really.

Keep dancing friends. You’ll make it through.

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