Let’s Lower the Bar for a Minute, Shall We?
Yesterday I got the email from a special education teacher.
“You’re daughter is getting an F in math”.
But my mind is far from academics at the moment.
My mind is on the ortho surgery my 15 year old daughter with ASD, ADHD (combo type), OCD, SPD, GAD and severe depression will have this coming Monday.
She told the surgeon ‘to hurry the fu*k up’ when he was putting on hand sanitizer entering the consult room the other day.
My mind is on counting calories to prevent introducing a new med due to her recent weight gain. Weight gain caused by a medication we do NOT want to take her off of.
My mind is on making sure my two kids spend time together because their desperately missing out on essential social interactions right now.
My mind is making sure Thanksgiving can feel festive and light so my children are not stripped of family traditions that we have worked so hard to maintain over the years.
My mind is toggling around to troubleshoot how my daughter HATES zoom and refuses to see anyone on screen because it makes her feel “exposed”.
My mind is on my new telehealth job that requires my children to remain quiet and content without me, 8 hours a day.
My mind is constantly digging deep into myself and utilizing my coping skills, to not scare the shit out of my children, considering the worlds current events.
Lastly, my mind is on trying to wearing many hats; such as OT, PT, Speech, Life skills coach, ABA, homeschooler, wife, mother, daughter, friend, nutritionist, cook, cleaning lady, listener, moderator etc…..while maintaining covid restrictions.
But yes, let’s talk about that F in math.
I know somewhere, someone told you to reach out to all the families that are struggling right now (on an e-learning platform) and let them know how well their child is doing before thanksgiving break.
I don’t blame you for this.
I don’t blame you that education is a roller coaster ride right now and it’s super hard to keep these kiddos on track.
I don’t blame you that our educational system is not nearly funded enough to carry the load you’re carrying right now.
I don’t blame you because in your mind, you’re probably toggling around the same issues as I.
So let’s lower the bar, shall we?
Thanks for listening. Sparkle on.
Written by, Trisha French
Trisha spends her days building awareness one day at a time by sharing the story of a fantabulous young lady living with autism + adhd and a variety of other Dx over at Trisha’s Autism Tips on Facebook.
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