I Choose Gratefulness

It’s interesting to know how much my attitude plays into this whole mothering thing.

When my oldest was diagnosed with autism six years ago, my focus was him and him only. He was the one who was struggling. I needed to help him.

I learned after hitting my breaking point, that my mental health mattered too. I was exhausted. I was worn down. I felt the weight of hope firmly on my back. And my attitude was being affected.

I was looking at things through a sad lens. A heartbroken one. And I was missing the joy.

Flash forward, I now have three boys. The oldest still isn’t really talking but he sure can communicate in his own way. He’s funny and smart and makes people smile.

The baby, well, he never stops talking. Never. The second his eyes open he’s talking about mama and boats and trains.

He says his brother’s names and dada and turtle and hot and up. It’s hilarious and wonderful.

When I work with his older brother on speech, he mimics along. The words coming easy for him. Every sound so effortless. The older one, fighting for the words. Working so hard.

I could be sad. People ask me all the time if I am. They wouldn’t fault me if I was. Because I am human. And real life is messy and hard sometimes.

But. Instead of sad I am choosing to be grateful.

I am grateful for every sound that comes out of each of their mouths. And how lucky am I that I get to watch them learn together.

Attitude matters. I choose grateful.

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