A Nonverbal Thank You

Cooper has never asked me for a birthday present.

He’s never asked me for anything really.

If I was to show him something cool or ask him a question about what I think he might want, he most likely will always answer yes.

He likes to answer yes. But it isn’t always accurate.

Unless I ask him something ridiculous like…do you want broccoli for dinner? Then it’s a definite NO.

Over the years we’ve never talked about the presents I’ve given him. Not a word.

I’ve never gotten an excited hug or a verbal thank you.

He typically won’t even act excited when he opens them.

So, how do I know when he’s happy? When he loves something? When he’s thankful?

Well, this.

Yesterday, I gave my sweet 9 year old birthday boy a book about trains and two magazines.

I knew he’d love them. And I was right.

They haven’t left his side. In the car. To the store. In his backpack. To bed. For nap. During his bath. Even brushing his teeth.

They are always in his hands. Or near him.

Communication doesn’t have to be verbal. I didn’t know that five years ago. Or maybe I did but I just didn’t want to see it. I probably wasn’t ready.

But I know now. He’s taught me.

This is love.

You are so welcome buddy. I’m glad you love your presents.

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