It Isn’t Really Something to Fix
Kids are complicated. And everyone has an opinion.
I mean every kind hearted, well-intentioned family member, friend, nurse, doctor, therapist and sometimes stranger has an opinion on your child.
Some of them are good opinions, some misguided, and a few of them probably make you want to throw something at them.
Doctors. Therapists. Visits and appointments. Scheduling and shuffling.
Integrating multiple therapeutic strategies into your home on a daily basis, all while balancing all the normal day to day things.
Parents and teachers of special needs, I know you get this – even though it feels completely okay, because it’s your job and you love your kids more than anything, it’s damn hard sometimes too.
The bad days come and you can’t help but wonder if every moment spent navigating has been a waste.
Who is right, who is wrong, does it matter, or does he just need some time?
So often, we spend so many hours listening to what other people think, we forget to tap into our own intuition and own opinions because we just want to fix this.
But that’s just it – it isn’t really something to fix, is it? It’s just a part of our normal.
So let’s not forget to live in the moment while we’re navigating. The good stuff comes with the hard.
Take a breath (I mean I’m constantly telling this to my kids, I might as well join in).
Pour a glass of wine and watch the sunset after they’re in bed. Disappear for a bit to be yourself again.
We love our kids so much, it’s too easy to lose who we are. Teach them how to love themselves so they can care for others.
And if nothing else, believe that you are doing only what you can, and that is enough.
Written by Caitlin Downs
Caitlin is a stay at home mom to two kids, ages 5 and 2. Her youngest is in the process of medical and developmental testing through multiple specialists. You can follow her community group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/478792639518655/?ref=share
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