Age is just a Number in our World

‘You prepare yourself as a parent for siblings to pass your disabled child by. But wait until your grandkids do too. That one will take your breath away.’

That comment.

It was said to me, with love, from a mom that had been doing this for 57 years. Her son is 22.

He’s like my amazing Cooper. Nonverbal. Severe. Smart. Funny. Loving.

He will need lifelong care. He will forever need help bathing and brushing his teeth.

He will never pay taxes or have a job. He will never get married or have kids.

Instead he chases butterflies and collects Pokémon cards.

He dances in the rain and believes in Santa Clause.

Time seemingly frozen. He is loved. He is treasured. He is cared for.

As my baby nears a year, his language is approaching his 8 year old brothers. I know it’s coming.

I know he will pass his brother by showing us once again that age is just a number.

Time keeps going. Frozen in some places.

Barney, Thomas, tying shoes, washing feet and buckling seatbelts. While my other boys seem to change almost overnight. Growing up.

I know that someday Cooper will be an uncle. An amazing uncle.

Uncle Cooper. Loved by everyone.

To protect my heart I try not to think of the babies that will eventually pass him by. It’s too hard.

One day at a time gets me though.

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