December 14, 2018

What is Our Relationship Like…

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When my son was five or six, I finally accepted that he ‘may’ be nonverbal forever. It wasn’t easy. And it almost depleted me.

I grieved the words I may never hear. All the mamas, I love you’s, and endless questions. Around that time I started wondering what our relationship would evolve into without words.

Would we have conversations?

Would it be quiet?

Would I be lonely?

Would I spend endless hours wondering what he was thinking or needing?

Well, the answer is no. Cooper and I ‘talk’ all day long. It is never quiet. I am not lonely. And I never, and I mean never, question what he is thinking or needing.

Our relationship may appear different to the world. But to us, it’s perfectly normal. It’s not less in any way. If anything, it’s more.

I share these videos so you can see how beautiful, fun, silly, and adorable nonverbal autism can be. He’s pretty silly in this one. He’s having a wonderful day. Chatting nonstop and laughing endlessly.

https://www.facebook.com/findingcoopersvoice/videos/1980141545408716/

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Kate Swenson

Kate Swenson lives in Minnesota with her husband Jamie, and four children, Cooper, Sawyer, Harbor and Wynnie. Kate launched Finding Cooper's Voice from her couch while her now 11-year-old son Cooper was being diagnosed with autism. Back then it was a place to write. Today it is a living, thriving community of people who want to not only advocate for autism, but also make the world a better place for individuals with disabilities and their families. Her first book, Forever Boy, will be released, April 5, 2022.

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